On finding the ‘right’ partner…

Been spending a few hours going through the old emails from my Giraffe, and I suddenly realized what a romantic man I married. I used to take all that romance for granted, but now as time has gotten the best of us, we’ve been left bickering and certainly less than blissful newlyweds. It hasn’t been that long, but I now know that it takes real hard work to make a partnership/marriage work… And that got me thinking on the subject of love.

How do you know when you’ve found ‘the one’? Love is so elusive… It comes and goes, and even the most passionate or romantic of couples eventually fall into the rut of familiarity and sameness… At the end of the day, I personally would like to think that when you find someone who makes you happy, don’t let go.  And the person who is ‘the right one’ for you might not be rich or good looking… But hey, we all got to learn to be happy, right? How did I know that my Giraffe was the right one for me? When I can describe him as the man who truly does make me happy… And he definitely falls into the following categories –

  • Someone who knows what you need before you say it.
  • Someone who knows when to laugh and when to cry.
  • Someone who truly listens when you have something to say.
  • Someone that’s there for you during the good and bad times.
  • Someone who is caring .
  • Someone who loves you with all their heart and soul.
  • Someone who is interested in reality and not as a fashion display.
  • Someone who is honest.
  • Someone you can trust them like a sibling, confide in like a friend but most of all, love as the great lover they are.
  • Someone who is open and responsive.
  • Someone who is never critical and ill-tempered in respect to your needs.
  • Someone who knows when things have to be compromised in the relationship.
  • Someone who understands listening is a key, but using what is heard is even more important.
  • Someone who’s there for you no matter what.
  • Someone who is trustful.
  • Someone who is a friend.
  • Someone who gives a shoulder to cry on.
  • Someone with a great sense of humor.
  • Someone who has things in common with you.
  • Someone who takes time to listen and enjoy you for who you are and tries not to make you something else.
  • Someone with a constant open ear, open heart, and open mind to accept and love people for who the really are.
  • Someone who will always be there to support your ideas without argument and love you for everything that you are.
  • Someone that can get a point across without yelling.
  • Someone that remembers all the cute stupid stuff you love.
  • Someone that has a personality with qualities you don’t have yourself, but admire greatly in them.
  • Someone who realizes you’re two separate people, and appreciates the differences.
  • Someone who can sense a mood problem, and not take it personally.
  • Someone who understands the difference between PMS, and a real problem.
  • Someone who can make you happy when your sad.
  • Someone who tells you the truth even if you don’t want to hear it.
  • Someone who will not hurt you intentionally.
  • Someone who is a sweet, romantic person who cherishes you no matter what.
  • Someone that you can laugh with.
  • Someone who you can feel comfortable with and that you don’t care what kind of weird stuff they see you do because you know they will still love you no matter what.
  • Someone who will love you in spite of your little idiosyncrasies.
  • Someone that would do anything to show how much they care.
  • Someone who is a great pal, a great kisser, and a great lover!
  • Someone who allows you to be yourself around them.
  • Someone who will respect you.
  • Someone who cherishes your hopes and is kind to your dreams.
  • Someone who knows you’re not perfect, but treats you as though you are.
  • Someone who listens with their heart and is your source of inspiration.

Thank you my darling Giraffe, for being with me all these 11 years. Loving me without compromise and with full honesty and trust. I love you. Don’t ever forget that.

Dreaming of your arms around me – Jasmine.

ps – Sorry for the soppy-ness of it all… Just realized suddenly that I too, have been neglecting my beloved Giraffe.